Divorce Lawyers – Don’t Let Them Steal From You and Your Children
In a recent post, Child Custody Lawyers Make War, Not Love, the lesson to be learned is that lawyers the world over love conflict. Conflict racks up thousands of extra dollars in billable minutes at the emotional as well as financial expense of clients, and their children.
If divorcing couples can fight over who gets the TV, lawyers handling a divorce involving children have a positive goldmine of conflict or potential conflict to exploit.
Here is some actual “advice” from a law firm specializing in divorce and child custody, regarding the question of cost:
“Do not be alarmed that most divorce attorneys will resist answering this question as the cost depends greatly upon the level of conflict.”
This is nonsense, to say the least.
A good divorce and custody lawyer can quite easily estimate costs, based on their experience. A lawyer who says he can’t is inexperienced or playing you for a fool. Walk away.
A good lawyer will also advise you to minimize conflict to keep costs at the lower end of their estimate.
If not, a lawyer is essentially asking you for a blank check. Conflict – unnecessary conflict – will make sure it ends up with a big fat figure on it. And you and your children will pay the price in more ways than one.
As a journalist at the Chicago Tribune put it, “At some point, if kids are involved, you have to ask yourself: Do I want to send my kids to college or some lawyer’s kids to college?”
Don’t write your divorce lawyer a blank check.
Stay in control and win child custody with minimum cost and heartache
Copyright 2008 Caroline Mackenzie
Filed under: Divorce Steps and Planning